Your Perspective on Accepting Feedback

By: Sonia Di Maulo, Feedback Enthusiast

Here Are Your Posts

Learning to Accept a Gift with Grace by Nancy Arruda, Jan 11, 2011

Accepting Compliments and Criticism by the Girl in the Red Shoes, Jan 18, 2011

Deliver Authentically: Cultivate Trust and Collaboration by Sonia Di Maulo, Feb 2, 2011

When Feedback is Hard To Take by Harold Thompson, Feb 3, 2011


2011 New Year celebrationIn 2010, I experimented with featuring more voices on the blog, publishing your posts on Authentic Recognition and Strategies for Offering Feedback. I loved what you all had to share, and want to showcase your stories more regularly in 2011! The plan is to present a different theme each month and open it up to your thoughts on the matter.

January’s Theme

Feedback, both positive and negative, comes to us in different forms, in various situations, and in all stages of life and work. But a lot of the time, we don’t really listen to the feedback and accept it. It can be a difficult thing to accept praise, criticism, and suggestions—often due to our own insecurities, ego, judgments, stubbornness… and the list goes on. However, when we do learn to accept that feedback, great things can come out of it.

How have you learned to accept feedback, both positive and negative? How has the acceptance process helped you?

This month, a lot of us make resolutions and action plans for the brand new year. How do your resolutions tie into the theme of accepting feedback?

Be Featured on the Blog

For the rest of January and beyond, I’ll be featuring your perspectives, thoughts, examples, and anecdotes about accepting feedback and 2011 New Year’s resolutions.

  • If you have something to say on the subject, email my blog editor at with your guest post, which can be 400 words or less. Please include a short bio and photo of yourself.
  • You can also contribute by adding your comments to this post!

Can’t wait to read your thoughts!


Sonia’s mission is to help Leaders and Managers cultivate trust and collaboration!

Sonia Di Maulo (BA in Communication Studies and MA in Educational Technology) is Founder and Lead Feedback Enthusiast of Harvest Performance. She has witnessed the power of authentic feedback engage, retain, connect, foster trust, improve performance, and impact the bottom line! In her spare time, she exposes exceptional performance at work, home, during her travels, and even while she shops! She offers Workshops, Coaching, and Keynotes aimed at getting you ready to cultivate trust and collaboration!

It’s time to harvest performance!

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5 Responses

  1. Karen Carleton - January 28, 2011

    At times accepting feedback (especially “constructive” criticism) is tough, but it depends on the credibility of the source, the context and how it’s delivered.

    I’ve had vague, negative comments from baseless allegations levelled at me from a supervisor who was out to get me. By contrast, I had an honest, well-intended constructive comment delivered by a kindly supervisor who respected me – huge difference in how I received the feedback!

    When someone critiques your area of expertise (which they possess none of), it’s hard to take it seriously. When people are not basing feedback or an evaluative comments on objective data, it lacks credence. Heresay is not enough.

    Toastmaster’s advocates the sandwich method: postive-constructive-positive – a bit predictable but much easier to hear and absorb, and a reminder of interpersonal sensitivities. Respectful feedback in the spirit of continuous improvement is one of the most powerful tools for workplace performance improvement.

  2. Sonia Di Maulo - January 28, 2011


    Absolutely. I have been exploring this facet of accepting feedback as well. Why is it so difficult for us to accept feedback. Maybe over the years people have lost the ability to offer honest authentic feedback and therefore we have a hard time believing and accepting it!

    Our homework is to offer it authentically (non-verbal communication is key) or not at all until we are ready!

    Thanks for your comment on this month’s theme!

  3. Sonia Di Maulo - February 2, 2011

    More on this on my first video blog: Deliver Authentically: Cultivate Trust and Collaboration

  4. Smith Convict - December 22, 2011

    Hi Sonia Di Maulo, long time reader, first time poster here.

    I just want to say you inspired me to change my life for the better, your articles are absolutely inspiring and insightful.

    Thanks again and happy Holidays here from Canada 🙂

    – Smith

  5. Sonia Di Maulo - December 22, 2011

    Hello James!

    Your note has now inspired me… a wonderful holiday gift. I look forward to welcoming more of your participation on the site in 2012.

    In fact, in would be wonderful to hear about what specifically inspired you from the site and how you have used it for good.

    All the best to you and yours,

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